Is it that hard to feign an occasional conversation...

I want to blame somebody .... dont you get the feeling sometimes that everyone seems to be right but there is something very wrong with what is going on?

People just move on. Its not they are doing anything better. They would like to believe that they are a step above what their parents were but they are not. Maybe its the case with us, or maybe its universal. You find a companion, you settle, your cute talks and your desires to have idle conversation is fulfilled by your partner. So much so that its painful when you have to talk to your parents. Why is it that hard? I can imagine that to be the case if all you do in your routine life is to have intellectual conversations. But thats not true! You can spew forth the most asinine drivel and make-believe stuff when you talk to your gf/spouse but when it comes to your mom and dad, you cant come up with a single interest topic of conversation!?

And that is why it becomes a difficult situation. Who do you blame? The girl who married Mr. X and thus directed the meaningless drivel towards herself or the guy who wants to talk and spend time with the girl he loves? Neither, right! Maybe people should blame the parents then! They are the ones who sit at home waiting for a small stupid, meaningless conversation with their children. Why do they do that !? Dont they realize that they are putting too much pressure on the young souls of their offsprings?

What is even more heart-wrenching is the happiness you see on their faces when you do talk to them. You can see them begging for more but satisfying themselves with what little they get. Its like the letter which 'Bruce Willis' in 'Sin City' gets every week from the little girl. It is his only piece of joy, his only ray of light. And then suddenly, the letters stop! And similarly, one day the conversation stops.

I want to blame someone.......

Why cant pretty people get together ?

Why do people commit to less than beautiful? Isnt beauty the highest criteria for selecting a girl? Then why doesnt it prevail when you choose a girl? Why do so many mismatched pairs exits?

Girls seem to get it right. Wealth on an average tops a girl's priority list and hence not surprisingly, you dont find girls marrying guys who earn less than their expectation. Yes, they might not be as rich as an Ambani, but they earn reasonably well. Similarly, why dont good looking guys find reasonably good looking girls? Maybe not an Aishwarya Rai, but at least having some physical attractiveness. I know that marrying someone is not just about looks. You need to look at compatibility, a good sense of humour, a nice nature and what not. But do decent looks and these features never come together? I have friends who have chosen girls who clearly fall short of their own standards of beauty but top in their standards of behaviour. You cant but fail to notice their eager looks when they first show you their gf's pics. They hope that I will approve, that I will probably find something beautiful that they, by their own high standards, missed. Alas, I cant offer any consolation. The best I do is to side step the question about looks and head straight for the 'how good is her nature' zone. After all, what makes you think that my standards are low!

Age accounts for some things

I sometimes feel that only a select few people in my college realized that they were there to study. That being in IIT was an opportunity to pursue what they dearly wanted to pursue. The majority were people who did courses for the sake of doing them. The tag of being in a premier college was enough, after all it would land them a pretty decent job anyway. The point is that I am not trying to be sarcastic.

Through the years that passed during college, work and in college again, I have come to realize that age plays a major role. When we look back at our actions in college, we always feel a sense of 'what was I thinking'. But it is probably being too harsh on oneself to say that I should have done things differently. After all, we were younger, more immature, more active, more young :), isnt it ?