Solitude

We are so afraid to be alone. I guess man is social so being alone is unnatural. Hence maybe its justified to be bad at it and not worry about the fact so much.

But being able to be alone, I mean the kind of alone where you enjoy your meals alone, where you like to sip your coffee alone, where your shopping is alone and even where watching a movie alone is just so much more enjoyable that the burden of company. Yes, considering company as a burden maybe a personal choice but I will still argue that the ones who take company in their stride and prefer it to do everything in pairs or groups give up on so much.

The burden of companionship wastes time. It is unlikely that your plans for a day fit perfectly with someone else's. Right! So to make companionship work, you give up on some tasks to be done another day.

Companionship promotes conformism; it does not allow you to think independently and challenge the system. Lets face it, with acquaintances, one wants to be polite and accomodating thereby putting up a amenable non-challenging demeanor. And with close friends and partners, the best case scenario is most likely an agreement to disagree.

Being able to function independently helps at work too. Offices, especially the big ones have politics intermingled in the system. One tends to gravitate towards groups where one feels better companionship. However, you never know when that group gets into dark waters and when other groups rise up. Being someone who can mingle with all yet stay away from all as well is bound to be beneficial.

The key here is not to be a solitary introvert. People are very important to offload thoughts and have discussions. But at the same time remember that there is a wonderful person that is waiting in line to hear your thoughts too.... You!